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Identity Crisis?

We all have them at one point or even multiple points in our lives. Trying to figure out who we are and what we’re trying to do. It’s a part of growing up. But one thing I need to say is that having an identity crisis’ due to not fitting in can happen, but is needless.

You shouldn’t need to think about changing yourself to fit in. Nonetheless, changing where you’re trying to fit in, to a place where you don’t even need to try is something more sensible. Every single person on our earth is special in their own way. No person should ever feel the need to change themselves in order to fit in. You should never feel the need to change yourself for the satisfaction of those around you. YOU are YOURSELF for YOU and NOONE else. As insanely cheesy as that sounds, I follow by this line. You are created in a very special way, and that shouldn’t need to change in any point of your life. If someone doesn’t like your interests, hobbies, personality, look, your quirkiness or your jokes, that’s unfortunate for them. But you should not have to do anything about it. Be yourself always. Be what makes you happy. If you are happy, I guarantee that the people around you, that matter, will be happy too.

In my years of high school, I have never felt like I needed to change myself to please others and I am very fortunate to say that. However, I have witnessed peers and ex-friends who have completely changed themselves for the sake of fitting in. I have seen them changing their looks, attitude and overall personality in order to make friends or be a part of a group of friends. I despise seeing people do this to themselves. Pressure and social influence play a major role in all of this. People who are changing like this fail to realize that they are not doing this for themselves but for the people around them. You can never satisfy everyone, and you have to realize that. You should only focus on making yourself as well as the people close to you happy. Don’t fall into this role confusion, trying to change you for others. I promise that someone somewhere would be very happy to become friends with the original you, for exactly who you are.

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Bullying Awareness Week

Bullying.. Bring back any harsh memories? Or remind you of someone? Or even remind you of yourself?

This third week of the beautiful month of November is bullying awareness week. It is a time to reflect, & raise awareness on one of the most tragic things a person can experience or go through in their life.

Bullying can occur in many different forms, but that doesn’t lessen the quantity or depth of the scars that it leaves. It’s unfortunate to say that every single person has experienced bullying at least once in their lives. And it’s even more unfortunate to think that despite all this awareness, people are still being bullied to this day.

What I don’t understand is WHY? Why does someone feel the need to put another person down? Is it to make yourself feel better, or to try & heal any previous scars you’ve had from being bullied? No reason can EVER justify bullying. If you’re bullying someone as a joke.. It’s NOT a joke. You have no idea how much you can hurt someone with your words. And after you’ve said those cruel words, no matter how many times you apologize it’s already affected the person. In that very moment you’ve brought down their confidence, self-assurance & sense of worth that they’ve tried building up for years. All the courage and confidence they have tried to mount in themselves is now gone, & the reason behind that is YOU. Think before you speak, don’t speak and then reflect on what you’ve said. Stop being a bully, stand up to bullying, tell someone (you’re not being a ‘snitch’; you’re simply preventing yourself or someone else from breaking down).

Each & every one of you is beautiful, & each and every one of you has a very unique place in our world. You are all important & worth it, and don’t EVER let anyone tell you otherwise! FullSizeRender (2)

“Love for All, Hatred for None”